I caught my husband in our matrimonial bed with our married neighbor. Her husband must hear of this.

It's quite sad that some husbands are making their wives feel so insecure when they see other women. The same men who preach to their wives to trust them are the same men who go around cheating on their wives. You don't compel people to trust you, you work to earn people's trust! How can your wife trust you when you harbor suspicions every day? Imagine the pains you've caused your dear wife by laying your married neighbor on your marital bed. Of all the women, it is that married woman that you saw, of all the places, it is your matrimonial home/bed that you chose to mess up with and to crown it all your neighbor! That woman is the worst mistake her husband had ever made, quite unfortunate. 

I don't just know how to plead with you to hold your peace, to avoid getting hurt more. Let's look at it critically; reporting to her husband is going to result in her marital breakdown, yes she deserves it, but it will lead to her husband confronting your husband. What if he chooses to go extreme to send assassins on your husband for destroying his marriage? If your husband is killed, automatically you're a widow. As a widow, how will you feel if you should come across that very woman who moves freely but had succeeded to put your husband six feet under?  What if the man only confronts your husband but spares his life? Don't you think your husband may fail to see his foolishness, but rather descends hot on you by seeking a divorce? Such men lack conscience. He may fail to admit that he incurred what he's facing upon himself but rather calls it off with you, telling anyone who cares how you sent assassins on him. 

It hurts so deeply. Your husband has not only failed you but he's also failed the woman's husband as well. Do you think he'll go scot-free if the man should get to hear? I want to plead with you that if you still value your marriage, at least for the sake of your children,  please don't report to her husband. Reporting will not only affect the shameless woman but will affect you as well. If I may ask, has your husband shown remorse? Has he come to you to seek forgiveness? It is quite difficult to accept such an apology, but please do. I know how hurt you feel, but with time, the wound will heal. For the shameless woman, meet her and threaten to get her reported to her husband, It's just a ploy to scare her to plead and completely withdraw from your husband. 

Men, can't you guys learn and strive to be with only your wives, can't you? It's all about determination! If you should discipline yourself and decide not to look outside your marriage, you will. It's about seeing other women outside of your marriage as a distraction. It will help you focus only on your wife. Stop admiring women outside. Appreciate your wife and change her to suit your style and taste. 

Click on this link to read a story of a man who was caught with a married woman, 

https://yvonnedaniels.blogspot.com/2023/01/message-from-prison-my-predicament-for.html?m=1

I know a lot of men claim it's a man's world and therefore cheating is allowed; if cheating is your calling, please go far away to honor your calling, don't ever allow your wife to suspect you, as this will cause chaos between you guys, don't ever cheat under her nose, never cheat on someone she knows, never cheat on someone's wife, never cheat in your neighborhood, church,  office, etc. Accord your wife that respect. When you start misbehaving with close people or people she knows, you have made your wife to lost her value, she's no longer regarded and held in high esteem, why? Simply because those people now see her as her equal, they now share the same thing with her. Men help your wives to trust you and stop using outside women to toy with their emotions. 

Hello, when you start getting healed, sit your husband down and talk sense to him. Pour your heart out and tell him how shameful,  disappointed,  and disrespectful he's proven to you. Let him know the trauma he has caused you and that you were out to report him to the woman's husband but had a change of mind to give him a second chance, threaten him not to disrespect you again or else you'll damn the consequences and ensure the world hears of it. He's your husband, the father of your children, forgive him, and welcomes him back into your life. We know it is not easy to forget and forgive but with time, you'll get over it. Wishes you marital bliss.