Ladies and gentlemen, learn to walk away when the red flag is displayed boldly in a relationship. When you read the signal that it is over, don't try to force it, walk away!
A lot of ongoing heartbreaks are what we incur upon ourselves. While you are in a relationship, try to define it, study and read between the lines, and don't let love becloud your sense of reasoning that you fail to make use of your eyes. Don't wait until your heart has been captured, twisted, and thrown into pieces then you realize how extensively you ignored the early signs that were coming to you.
Some partners find it difficult to walk away because they invested a lot in the relationship to make things work out. Staying in an abusive, toxic, or unvalued relationship isn't worth it, it is time wasted, so take a deep breath, take your mind off the efforts you invested, and walk away. If you are not valued, you are not, rather your efforts will be abused and taken for granted. Your mental state of mind counts a lot, and calling it off is an option. Some broken marriages can be linked back to when they were dating.
Don't be compelled to marry someone out of compassion. When later married, the result is often awkward as you no longer see a friend in your spouse, you start seeing flaws, and regrets set in which eventually leads to you cheating and looking outside.
Don't ever be compelled to marry someone because of what people will say, how you'll be laughed at or mocked by friends if you choose to walk away while dating. You are the one wearing the shoes, you know how much it hurts, so walk away and forge on in life, a partner who knows your worth will locate you.
A lady narrated how she considered marrying her guy who was fond of disrespecting her by calling other women before her and even scheduling when she could visit him. Twice she visited uninvited, she got the shock of her life as he was caught in bed with one of her girlfriends. She stood speechless as her friend got up in shame, dressed up, and ran out of the room while her guy got up and slapped her on why she chose to disobey his orders by taking him unaware. The lady left in tears, yet despite how people were advising her to quit the relationship, she kept saying that when they married he would change. Yes, they later got married but did it work out? Her husband escalated from slapping to punching and kicking her mercilessly if she dared question him when he was caught with side chicks. At one point, she couldn't withstand the bully from him so she ended the marriage.
It would have been better if she walked out while they were dating and gotten laughed at by her friends than to face the societal shame and pains of marital breakup. A failed relationship is better than having a failed marriage.
Imagine a guy dating a temperamental lady who destroys things at the slightest provocation. His friends warned him about the relationship and he went behind and told his girlfriend what his friends said. The ignorant friends visited him as usual and the wild girlfriend rushed to the sitting room where they were and poured a bucket of water on them, then ordered them to leave the house. Yes, the guy later married her, but it didn't last up to 6 months when they broke up. Now the guy goes heartbroken calling all women names, no! All women are not the same, just like all men are not the same. You were just unfortunate to be in the wrong relationship and you failed to walk away when the signs were glaring for you to see
Saying goodbye to a relationship you so much cherish is extremely difficult, but you've got to be strong to take your stand. Feel the pains of not being valued and walk away. Get busy, get your mind occupied with profitable tasks, and work away. Don't ever make your partner feel or believe that you can't exist without them. The moment you display this trait, you have soiled your value before your partner, and the love he or she had for you will depreciate, knowing you are desperately in love and can't quit no matter the deficiency from his or her end.
In conclusion, don't ever make the mistake of saying "I know my partner will change if we eventually get married." Who told you that? If your partner can't change now, then get ready to adapt to his or her lifestyle because what you are seeing now is the tip of the iceberg. When married, you'll start hearing, "But you met me like this when we were courting." If you can't absorb what you will face when married, then put yourself together now and walk away!
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