It saddened my heart as I witnessed a child being molested by the house help, yet the mother who is known as the closest to her child failed to see it, if not for the curious neighbors who were observant enough to draw the child's mother's attention to it, I wonder what would have become of the child now. Currently, she's undergoing treatment and recovering fast.
The negligence of children needs our attention. Parents and guidance should address this and work on reconstructing a strong bond with their children. Some high-career parents have denied their children parental intimacy. They prefer the love of their career to their children. All they do is entrust everything into the hands of nannies, houseboys, housegirls, etc. Is it not embarrassing to see an infant crying to the nanny when the mother is even beside the child? It shows how you have failed in your motherly responsibility, your child now prefers a nanny to you. You are the number one person your child should run to and cling to not your nanny. Irrespective of your career, create time for your children and build a strong bond with them by sitting down to play and laugh with them. Ask them personal questions, counsel them, sensitize them on sex education, get to know their interests and hobbies, get to know the type of friends they keep, go through their school books and check for their performances, monitor and watch over your girl's body system and give her thorough moral. She is expected to report any suspicious activity coming from the opposite sex. Some mothers fail in this aspect that even when their girl child is sexually molested, she confines herself to herself. Build a confident relationship with your children, so that they can always count on you to report any suspicious activity.
A child that lacked home orientation is easily known in the public by their speeches, attitude, and lifestyles, and a child that had a good home orientation is equally known outside as they possess homely moralities. Parents should not cast blame on the school teachers of their children when their children are caught in an unwanted act. You as a mother are supposed to be the first tutor, and counselor to your children. Train them morally with love, so that at your back what you embedded and instilled in them supersedes peer influence.
Don't expect your children's academy teachers or nannies to take over the responsibility of your children for you. They have their limit on what they can do, so do your part!
Mothers are considered to be the number one confidant of their children. Why? Do you know that since the day one you put to bed, you were the first person your baby recognized and acknowledged? Remember how your baby was crying and directing his or her body to the position of your breast to get fed? How did your baby know that you were entitled to it? Your child perceived that motherly aroma in you right from the inception, so hold yourself responsible for failing to continue in that bond.
It is never too late to wake up from our slumber and fathers are not left out as well. No matter how busy you are as a father, may your children never see you as a stranger. Strive and create time for them. Don't leave everything to your wife, do your part as a father and get familiar with your children. Build a confident relationship with them. Groom them and discipline them with love. Once in a while, take your family out to parks or recreation centers where they can have fun. Make them happy so that they will be longing for your presence if you travel. It is quite sad that some children are happy and excited when their father travels. Give your children a good memory of you to hang out with whenever you're not around.
In conclusion, parents who had neglected their parental bond with their children should wake up. Money isn't everything, so don't feel that pampering your children with money through house help is paramount, no! Get close to your children and make them your friends.
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