We know you're deeply hurt, but please hold your peace and don't revenge. Dating someone doesn't mean you guys are liable for marriage. Not all relationships were meant to result in marriage. If you guys weren't destined for each other, dating him will lead to nowhere. At times the universe works mysteriously behind the scenes for our good, but we fail to see and appreciate it. Who knows what would have befallen you if you had proceeded in marriage with him, but the universe diverted it to avert had I known coming to you at the end of the day? Dating someone for years isn't a guarantee for marriage, so let's do away by exaggerating the number of years you spent with a guy and hoping for marriage.
Hello, when you were dating him for 8 years, definitely, there were red flags for you to have read between the lines, but you were likely beclouded with love and so failed to see and read the handwriting. If we may ask, what steps did he take that made you surrender to him for good 8 years? Did he meet your folks that might have warranted you to believe so much in him? While dating him and hoping it results in marriage, did you seek the face of God over it? I know this last question may sound funny, but it's very relevant. If you were to pray over it, it's obvious that God must have shown you some early signs but since you weren't observant or you were carried away with love you failed to see it.
Do you know if it is a divine will for him to marry someone else? Take a deep breath and hold yourself. Don't do something naughty that you'll end up regretting. It is very painful when you remember the years you spent together to make things work out in the future, but only to realize how much you were used and finally dumped. I repeat, don't take any drastic action, and don't revenge. Hand everything to God and move on. The Universe watches, it controls karma. If he played smart on you by deceiving you about marriage, but only to dump you and settled with someone else, relax and watch out for how the universe works.
Now hear this true life story; A man and a lady dated for 12 years. They saw a future in each other, so she built her world in him. This is a man who proposed to her at her birthday party before her friends, family and guests. She was so loyal and resourceful to him which everyone can atttest. The guy couldn't be seen in any event without her, he cherished her as well but we all got the shock of our lives when the guy rang his wedding bell and lo and behold a strange lady's name was written on the wedding card, he was getting married to someone else, not his fiance that we all know. I can remember one fateful day when someone questioned him over his action and he hastily defended himself with this word, "when you see opportunity, grab it. Do you know whom this lady's father is in this country? He's so influential and having me as the son-in-law is the greatest that life could offer me," this he goes around telling anyone who questioned his decision.
This lady cried profusely, sending people to plead with him to change his mind, but it was quite late as his wedding card/bell was ringing everwhere. Despite all the trauma and torment he caused her, he still went ahead to compound the issue by getting her arrested. One sunny day while still tense she heard a knock at her door, it was some team of policemen, so she opened and asked to know who they were looking for. They told her she was needed at the station. After many interrogations, she had no choice but to follow them, knowing that she wasn't guilty of any crime. At the station, she met her fiance and the new lady he planned to marry. They knew the pain they caused her, and they were afraid that she might think of hurting them, so they had her arrested and under duress she was made to sign an undertaking that she has consented to their marriage and therefore can never think or plan to harm them and that if anything should happen to any of them, she should be held responsible. She signed in tears and left.
How was the marriage? Five years later, he had a fatal accident which confined him to a wheelchair. The wife couldn't undergo the stress of carrying him to the restroom and cleaning him up so she left. She left when she had succeeded to take him to his village, then came back and got the mansion they lived which was a gift from her father sold out. She sold out everything and relocated to Amsterdam. This was coming from a lady that had no child for him for the past 5 years of their marriage, so she owed him nothing and ended up everything with him. As I'm typing this story, he's still in his village writhing in pains unaided. He cries every day that if he had known, he would have stuck to his fiance of 12 years. Fortunately his fiance whom he dumped after 12 years got married with 2 children. Men learn! Stop hurting the ladies you are dating, stop lying to them in the name of marriage. If you haven't made up your mind to marry her, never propose or keep her delaying in that relationship. What you can never wish to be done on your sister, then don't ever attempt it on someone else's sister.
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Men withdraw from accumulating innocent tears from women upon your lives. If you meet a lady who is ripe for marriage and you are not yet ready with her, simply let her go, don't waste her time. The more she stays the more she believes in you. It is an act of cruelty to date a lady for years, a lady you so much know you don't love or share the future with. Have you ever sat down to think of the pains she will undergo when you get to ditch her? Have you ever sat down to think of the consequences attached?
Hello, wait patiently for a man that is destined for you in marriage will surely come. What if you and your ex weren't compatible? It's better to wait than to marry today and break up tomorrow. Also, being celibate isn't a crime. It helps to avoid confusion, heartbreaks, stress, agony, pains, lies, etc from men. If you can opt for it, it may help while praying and watching to meet yours. Remember not to revenge, watch to see what the universe has in store for you.
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